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In Praise of Grandma

Vicki never expected to be raising a grandson. After all, she had raised four children of her own and considered herself done. But when she found out that 5-year-old Chase needed her she moved back to New Jersey from Georgia to give a lending hand. However, she quickly found out that Chase needed her full time as his mother struggled with drug addiction and was no longer able to care for him. Vicki gained custody of Chase but then met up with a new problem: homelessness.

 

Turning to the Salvation Army, she stayed there for seven months while caring for Chase and working for the East Orange Police Department. Still she was unable to save enough money to pay the security deposit and first month’s rent needed for an apartment. That’s when she was referred to IHN. It wasn’t until Chase walked up to “Miss Brenda” (Social Worker Brenda Myrick), calling her by name that Vicki realized IHN had helped Chase and his mother two years earlier.

 

Thanks to IHN, Vicki received rental and food assistance and was able to move into a new apartment and provide Chase with the stability he needs. It hasn’t been easy starting over. Vicki struggles with health problems, the emotional toll of her daughter’s addiction, and her worries about Chase. She is barely getting by although she’s employed as a crossing guard. But she is grateful to be there for Chase and admits they have a nice, quiet life together.

 

Chase is now in first grade and is adjusting well to his new school after a hard transition. Vicki is currently working to get him the help he needs at school to perform at grade level. Given the difficulties he’s experienced, not to mention the 48 days of kindergarten that he missed, it’s not hard to imagine why he struggles with his school work. Vicki believes that with his smarts and good attitude he’ll be just fine. With Grandma Vicki by his side, we believe this to be true.

 

Her Children Keep Her Going

Life with four sons is busy and no one can tell you better than Jeanine. A single mom who worked full time as a photographer for a company that took school photos, Jeanine was doing her best. School-wise, her boys were in three different places and each day she got them where they needed to be. Yes, life was busy, but manageable. However, everything suddenly turned upside down when her employer was bought out and the new company didn’t rehire her. Bills piled up and it wasn’t long until she was unable to pay her rent.

 

That’s what brought her to IHN five years ago. Jeanine’s oldest was in 8th grade at the time and being homeless was toughest for him. As an active boy, all Deven wanted to do was to go out and play with his friends. Having to live in a shelter made him feel like he had lost his freedom. He didn’t understand why this ordeal was happening to him. Thankfully, Jeanine was able to save money find work in retail while they were in the shelter and. Three months later, the family left the shelter for a new home.

 

Jeanine is grateful to be in her own apartment but life hasn’t been smooth going. Paying the bills is still a struggle along with finding jobs that work for her schedule. She no longer has a car and still hasn’t been able to find employment as a photographer. Then, last year, she came close to losing her apartment again. Wanting to avoid eviction, she turned to IHN for a second time and was able to get rental assistance, thanks to a government contract that IHN secured for homelessness prevention.

 

These ups and downs are enough to make one give up, but Jeanine says it’s her children who keep her going. She keeps a strict household, something she learned from her father before he left when she was 12. And she looks for opportunities that will keep her children on a straight path. In fact, her youngest son Derrick is in the midst of a two-week camp at Philip’s Academy, sponsored by a generous IHN donor.

 

As for Deven, he had to grow up quickly by helping Jeanine care for the younger boys. She recounts how for a time he was responsible for picking up Derrick from preschool and bringing him to sports practice until she got home from work. Learning responsibility early, perhaps, positioned him for academic success as he’s starting his freshman year at St. Peter’s University with plans to major in biochemistry.

 

When asked what IHN means to her, Jeanine describes how the organization has been a refuge and a source of hope. Through tears that speak to the fierce love she has for her boys amidst life’s difficulties, she states that her goal is to maintain healthy and beautiful lives for her children.

 

 

Smith Family Finds “Home for Good”

 

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We really didn’t see it coming.

 

Knowing the lease on our home was about to expire, Martisa and I had saved up a little extra for moving. But it turned out that no one would rent to us. I had a past eviction on my credit report and the rental companies wouldn’t see past it.

 

We wanted to stay in the same town until our three kids finished the school year so we had to start staying in motels. But that got expensive, so by the time school ended, we were left with a few hundred dollars. We had no choice but to split up and move in with parents and friends.

 

By now, we were desperate for a solution. Thankfully, Martisa found IHN. At first, I didn’t want any part of staying in a shelter, but she convinced me that it would be a safe, clean environment for our children. And it was! Then after about a month, one of IHN’s Home for Good apartments opened up.

 

Working with Brenda Myrick, we moved in about a year ago and have been trying to rebuild our lives. As part of the Home for Good program, we meet with IHN for weekly case management services to see how we’re doing with meeting our goals. It takes hard work to move forward, especially in this economy but I’m just grateful to IHN for giving us a hand-up. We’re not where we used to be, but we’re getting there!

 

 

 

 

Tamir Gets His Wish

 

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Tamir doesn't ask for much for himself.

 

In fact every time his social worker at school probed him for a wish list, he gave the same answer: a house for my family, a job for my mom, and happiness for my family.

 

One day, she said, "Tamir, you never tell me what you want for just for yourself. What's your favorite thing in the whole world?" Immediately, his face lit up and he exclaimed, "Basketball!"

 

Well, that got his social worker thinking.

 

Her husband worked for Calvin Klein and she remembered that the company outfitted Amar'e Stoudemire, center/forward with the NY Knicks, with his suits. Just maybe her husband could arrange something special and unexpected for this boy who had spent over four months in IHN's Congregational Shelter.

 

That day came to be when Tamir was presented with an Amar'e Stoudemire jersey and an autographed framed picture of the player. Although the jersey may be a bit large for him, we know he'll wear it often.

 

And the picture? That will be hanging on his new bedroom wall.

 

 

 

 

Grateful to Be Home

 

Things were starting to unravel for Stephanie.

 

Bills were piling up. She was having difficulty paying her rent. And then it happened:  she lost her job. Now paying rent went from hard to impossible and Stephanie found herself and children, Sasha and Stephen, evicted and homeless.
 
Taking temporary refuge at her sister’s in New York, Stephanie started making a dizzying number of calls — calls for shelter, calls for housing, calls for jobs. Thankfully, one of those calls panned out — the one from Brenda Myrick, director of social services at IHN, telling Stephanie that she had room in the Network for her family.
 
Having a place to stay like IHN was Stephanie’s key to making progress. She was able to find a new job that she loves:  teaching math to developmentally disabled adults. IHN advocated the school district so Sasha and Stephen would be provided with transportation to IHN’s Family Day Center for childcare after school. And the volunteers at each congregation occupied her children with fun activities when Stephanie just needed a break to attend to all the things a mom has to do when the work day is done.
 
Even though Stephanie and her children had to spend the holidays in the shelter, she’s grateful for the time she needed to get her life in order. In particular, Stephanie credits a financial workshop for helping her get to the point where she could move into her own apartment. Offered by Investor’s Bank and Home Corp. through IHN’s Home for Good program, Stephanie learned how to slash her expenses for rent, cell phone service, even car insurance resulting in $450 in monthly savings.
 
Now that she and her children are happily settled in their new home, she reflects on her experience. Although her young children sailed through their episode of homelessness they now have a new urgency when they wake each morning. She’ll hear Stephen calling, “Sasha! Wake up. We need to get ready for school on time so Mommy isn’t late for work. We don’t want to be homeless again!” Perhaps it’s an awareness that most elementary children don’t have but for the Edwards family they have a new-found gratefulness for a home of their own.

 

 

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